‘It’s me or him’: Girlfriend forbids boyfriend from attending his best friend's wedding, even though he's the only person invited

Author image for Briana Viser
Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 12, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Weddings: the day of matrimony, bliss, and everything going according to plan. Not! If there's one day that's a walking contradiction of itself, it's your wedding day. Purportedly the 'happiest day of your life' and ultimately ends up being the most stressful, not to mention the planning and money involved to make it happen. Drama emerges a little too easily, when mixing two different families, friends, coworkers (even the Karen in the office everyone hates but you have to invite her anyway). I don't blame couples for choosing the 'small, cheap' route, or even the path to elope. 

To assuage these spikes of cortisol for the couple, the best thing you can do as a friend or guest to the ringed duo is to be a compassionate, compromising, and calm guest. Hey, it's not your wedding day, just give this one to the newlyweds for their efforts to entertain you, and offer you expenseless food, drink, and fun, just to make them feel special. So don't be a 'guestzilla' like the woman in this Reddit piece. Read it to see for yourself.

Add as a preferred
source on Google
Advertisement
  • 01
    Posted by u/Disastrous-Day-3751 2 hours ago ş AITA for being mad at the best man's gf for making him choose between a dog and our wedding?
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 02
    My fiancé (m29) and I (f26) got engaged last October after 6 years together and plan to marry this October. We both have a very complicated family's so we thought a lot about our wedding and decided that we just want peace and don't want to worry about all the family drama. So we planned to get marry in Italy with only our best man and maid of honor. It's
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 03
    only a 4 hours drive to a small city we once discovered on a road trip. We invited my maid of honor / his best man to the wedding (call him Mike, m29) and told them that they could bring there significant other also. The trip would be fully paid and Mike is my fiancé best friend since kindergarden. Mikes girlfriend (let's call her Courtney, f28) and him are together for 3
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 04
    years. We were very welcoming towards her and I befriended her also. We did a lot of things together, helped them move and build their home. Mike and Courtney are getting a dog (hopefully in September) so Mike told us he needed a different hotel because the one we choose is not dog friendly and at the time
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 05
    of our wedding (October) they would probably have the dog. We apologised and looked for another hotel. Than he texted that Courtney thinks the dog wouldn't make the long drive which we understood. We said that there are probably a lot of friends and family who could take the dog but Courtney doesn't want that. Mike told us that Courtney would
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 06
    probably stay home with the dog and he would travel alone. Here comes the drama: the following day Mike wrote us he will not come to our wedding because Courtney doesn't want to be alone with the dog for the weekend and she also would like to attend the wedding. Courtney wrote to me that we could change our wedding month or the place (maybe just a wedding
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 07
    in our hometown) so that they could come. I said no. If we married in our hometown the families would want to attend and all the drama between parents and siblings would stress us out. My fiancé asked Mike again if he couldn't come alone and he finally told us that Courtney threatened to end the relationship if he doesn't stay with her (and the dog). My fiancé was absolutely sad and
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 08
    disappointed and told Mike his feelings. He's normally not over emotional but that was hard for him. Courtney wrote me the following day as if nothing has happened and I told her that I'm absolutely disappointed in her and can't understand her behaviour and how she puts this dog (who is in
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 09
    absolutely no danger or need to have two people dog sitting him) over our wedding and kind of excepted her to apologise for all the stress she put us through. She called me an insensitive and offensive person, a bide-zilla who wants her wedding above everything and said she couldn't accept my behaviour even if I apologised. I just can't
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 10
    comprehend why I should apologise? I feel like I can express to friends if I'm disappointed and I absolutely didn't wrote anything offensive. Edit: sorry for mistakes, English is not my first language! Edit 2: to clarify: there is no dog yet. They talked to a breeder, he said that IF his dog mama get
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 11
    Edit 2: to clarify: there is no dog yet. They talked to a breeder, he said that IF his dog mama get pregnant and has more than 3 babies they would get one in September.
    via u/Disastrous-Day-3751
  • 12
    BulbasaurRanch • 2 hr. ago Pooperintendant [55] Woah what the That girl is way out of line, that's some crazy behaviour. There is zero valid reason Mike can't attend. He's pretty spineless too himself to
    via u/BulbasaurRanch
  • 13
    allow her to dictate his plans like this. Courtney is the kind of person not worth knowing. I'd begin to exclude her from everything, but continue to invite Mike to things. Eventually he will realize that she is preventing him from doing things.
    via u/BulbasaurRanch
  • 14
    Simple-Status-15. 2 hr. ago , you were generous changing the hotel to a dog friendly one. Best man is a bigger than his gf. NTA
    via u/Simple-Status-15
  • 15
    sparksgirl1223. 45 min. ago Enthu... Right. When I read that demand I mentally chose new friends. And I don't even know these people
    via u/sparksgirl1223
  • 16
    BearZeroX. 52 min. ago That is absolutely wild she's willing to end a THREE year long relationship over a dog she DOES NOT own yet.
    via u/BearZeroX
  • 17
    Future-Ear6980 · 42 min. ago She thinks that she's got Mike in the bag and is only now showing her true colors
    via u/Future-Ear6980
  • 18
    F_ingtreehugger. 32 min. ago A dog that hasn't even been conceived yet....
    via u/F_ingtreehugger
  • 19
    microbiologyismyl ife 9 min. ago What's even more wild is that Mike seems to have no issue with his GF having given him this
    via u/microbiologyismylife
  • 20
    insane ultimatum over a dog that they don't even have yet! I mean, how big and red does that flag have to be before you see it?!?!
    via u/microbiologyismylife
  • 21
    Calypte_A 54 min. ago She's trying to isolate him.
    via u/Calypte_A
  • 22
    Miguel4659. 16 min. ago Jealous of his friendship with the fiance.
    via u/Miguel4659
  • 23
    Vegetable-Wing6477. 12 min. ago Sounds like bad main character syndrome. "I just met you, now completely change YOUR wedding on the off chance i get a dog months from now"
    via u/Vegetable-Wing6477
  • 24
    New_Ad3658 . 28 min. ago Honestly, something else has to be going on with her. I don't believe the dog is the actual issue. She is acting out for a reason (doesn't mean it is a rational reason.) I'm interested to know what Mike's family thinks of Courtney.
    via u/New_Ad3658
  • 25
    harry_boy13 55 min. ago And the funny thing is there is no dog, yet... Op shold give bestman a collar as bestman's gift.. NTA D ED
    via u/harry_boy13

Tags

boyfriend drama relationships girlfriend wedding lol love silly reddit thread red flag Reddit funny dating
Scroll Down For The Next Article